Trouble Orgasming

[bricknmortar]

Hey y'all!

I’ve been having trouble orgasming for a while now, and it's becoming a nuisance. I had a serious injury (broken vertebrae) In early August, and since healing from that I've had a harder time cumming than before, on my own and with a partner. I don’t think I’ve ever cum while having sex with my gf, and I really struggle to cum while masterbaiting, though it does happen. It takes a lot more pressure (highest setting on my vibe) than it did before my injury, and anything less is just not enough. Also It feels like i have a limited window, if I dont go hard enough for twenty minutes I just lose all sensation and give up. What should i do? Is there a chance this will change? I sure hope so

-Brick

[Latha]

Hello, Brick

I'm sorry to hear about your injury, but I'm glad that it has healed since August, and that you've gotten to a place where you're exploring sex and masturbation again. It makes so much sense that you would miss how sex used to feel, and be frustrated with how elusive pleasure has been. Though we don't know the details of your injury and we can't give specific medical advice, the fact that you have been able to feel sensation and orgasm speaks well for your hopes. I think it is quite likely that you will be able to learn to feel good again--we can help you think about what you might do to make that happen.

To start, if I may ask, have you been able to ask your doctor for advice about sex for those recovering from your injury? What have they said about the subject?

I think we have to keep in mind that this was, as you said, a serious injury. Trauma like that can really mess up your relationship with your body in ways that take time to heal, beyond that taken for the injury itself. As always when it comes to issues with feeling pleasure, being patient with yourself is key. Try to follow pleasure as it exists, instead of expecting your body to react as it did before.

[bricknmortar]

Hey Latha, thanks for the reply, apologies it's been a bit! I have not been able to talk to a doctor about my concerns, though I have an upcoming appointment where I hope to address my concerns. I wanted to ask here first to see if I could get any general advice in the meantime. Is there yoga associated with better sex? Like some kind of exercise or muscle conditioning? Idk it just popped in my head. I’m really curious if y'all have heard of any more unique methods to make sex more pleasurable, other than the recommended don't stress and lube up.

Happy New Years!
-Brick

[maille]

bricknmortar,

From my knowledge, generally the breath work and tension release from yoga is associated with pleasure. Then there is the physical piece with enhanced flexibility. I would suggest starting by looking up yoga poses and stretches that target certain body parts/areas you have difficulty with or want to improve upon.

How does this sound?

[bricknmortar]

Makes sense, thank you