Re: I feel really lonely
Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2025 5:58 pm
Hey Max3_3,
It sounds like you're in a pretty tough spot right now. I know what it's like to feel the isolation of living with family that doesn't seem to understand the weight of mental health and the need for external resources that can help alleviate some of that stress and emotional heaviness. It's such a complicated place to be, especially when in between therapists.
Can I ask what has helped you the most in past therapy environments? Figuring out what helps us best can be useful in narrowing options when looking for a free therapist or counselor. If you know that, for example, you really like someone to just listen, as opposed to someone who tries to give advice, or maybe you prefer someone of a specific gender, age, or political leaning, you can absolutely communicate with them before meeting. Writing a list of preferences or therapy types can help a provider recognize if they may or may not be the right person for you, letting them even possibly recommend others who suit your preferences more. This has helped me a lot when I had to change therapists and sit through toooo many first sessions just to realize I couldn't continue with them anyway (sometimes people just don't mesh).
Does this sound like something that might help narrow the search? Or if you feel it's too much to continue right now (understandable), are there therapy alternatives you can think of that might be beneficial to adopt? (talking with friends, school counselor, joining a new group or activity to distract from all the brain stuff rn, or writing about what you might otherwise say verbally in-session?).
It sounds like you're in a pretty tough spot right now. I know what it's like to feel the isolation of living with family that doesn't seem to understand the weight of mental health and the need for external resources that can help alleviate some of that stress and emotional heaviness. It's such a complicated place to be, especially when in between therapists.
Can I ask what has helped you the most in past therapy environments? Figuring out what helps us best can be useful in narrowing options when looking for a free therapist or counselor. If you know that, for example, you really like someone to just listen, as opposed to someone who tries to give advice, or maybe you prefer someone of a specific gender, age, or political leaning, you can absolutely communicate with them before meeting. Writing a list of preferences or therapy types can help a provider recognize if they may or may not be the right person for you, letting them even possibly recommend others who suit your preferences more. This has helped me a lot when I had to change therapists and sit through toooo many first sessions just to realize I couldn't continue with them anyway (sometimes people just don't mesh).
Does this sound like something that might help narrow the search? Or if you feel it's too much to continue right now (understandable), are there therapy alternatives you can think of that might be beneficial to adopt? (talking with friends, school counselor, joining a new group or activity to distract from all the brain stuff rn, or writing about what you might otherwise say verbally in-session?).