Hey, folks.
We just want to give some of you a heads-up that if and when you're dishonest in your posts, profiles or registration about things like your age, location or anything else, it doesn't set us up for great interactions. That's because often, we can either know (IP addresses tell us where you actually are) or surmise (some of us have been at this job for a loooooong time) that you're not telling the truth, and that means that we don't get to start our interactions with trust.
We often have to deal with trolls, as well as people who are opposed -- sometimes violently -- to things like sex ed, queerness, abortion or other sexual healthcare, so we have to keep it in our heads you might be one of those folks if and when we see or suspect some kind of dishonesty, not to mention that it's actually in our user agreement that if a user is engaging in fraud, we may not work with them at all or may ban them. This creates extra work for us on top of just adding a sus dynamic to our interactions with you we'd rather wasn't there.
If you are being dishonest and it's out of concern for your own safety and privacy, there are better ways to tend to that. For example, no one needs to put their exact location in their profile or registration: a country is more than enough. If you are worried someone might recognize you because of the age you are, just be extra sure to pick a username you have never used before that doesn't give up anything about you that identifies you, such as a super generic name that isn't your name with a bunch of numbers (like, say, Mary4567). If you have other concerns that are causing you to feel like you have to create false facts about yourself, you can also always email us and we're happy to help you solve for that.
But generally please do us the service of being honest and not making up false facts, just like we come to you honest and authentic. Building trust is so important in anything to do with sex and sexuality, including when we're working together here. Thanks. <3
Dishonesty in profiles/registration
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Heather
- scarleteen founder & director
- Posts: 10767
- Joined: Sun Jul 27, 2014 1:43 pm
- Age: 55
- Awesomeness Quotient: I have been a sex educator for nearly 30 years!
- Primary language: english
- Pronouns: they/them
- Sexual identity: queery-queer-queer
- Location: Chicago
Dishonesty in profiles/registration
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