Scarleteen

When I’m having sex with my wife, I usually last around 3 to 4 minutes. However, in the past couple of days, we’ve had sex in the bathroom while she was standing and leaning on the sink basically a standing doggy-style position. Both times, I finished much earlier than her, quicker than usual. I’ve noticed this position seems to make me climax faster. What can I do to last longer in this specific position?

Hi there, fiqu.

You know, there's rarely much anyone can do to keep from reaching orgasm from a given thing that gets them there if just trying to with the power of your mind, basically, isn't working. You can also try things like reaching orgasm from masturbation before you have intercourse with your wife, if you're someone who can get erect again soon after orgasm. But on the whole, you probably can't control this much but you probably also don't need to try in the first place.

It sounds like this matters to you because you are trying to assure you both experience orgasm, so what is most likely to be best when it comes to that is simply doing other things that bring her to orgasm wither before or after you have intercourse. After all, it's not like sexual activity has to end just because you had an orgasm: you can continue it with other activities (like with your hands/fingers and her genitals, or with oral sex for her) if you can't or don't want to continue intercourse after *you* have had an orgasm. Do you understand what I mean?