Scarleteen

so. September started again and i’m back in college. last year i had my first hallway crush, and it was life changing, because falling in love for that girl finally helped me to accept myself as queer/bisexual. she’s two years older than me, and very talented. we’ve met at the theater club.

through that year we’ve texted from time to time, and even though her replies were nice and didn’t seem uninterested, sometimes she would text me first or leave cute comments on my social media, she also would take a looong time to reply to my messages or leave them unread until i would delete them. i also gave her a valentine, and when after that she asked if this was a platonic or romantic valentine i told her platonic, too afraid too seen like a creep. after some time my feelings weakened, and for summer i almost completely forgot about her, remembering it as a warm cute story, i missed these feelings a little bit.

but today i saw her again, surprisingly, my body reacted the same, my heart raced and felt all these rollercoasters i felt before. we waved at each other and then talked a little bit. i asked her if she’s gonna go to the theater club again. and i heard her say something along the lines “i don’t like the teacher there, but maybe if it’s gonna be something fun for halloween” and my friend who were sitting next to me while this was happening heard her say “i don’t like the teacher there, but if you go i’ll go too” i dont how this happened, but it was pretty loud while we were talking. for a split second i kinda thought that i also heard her say the “if you go i’ll go thing” abut decided to not be delusional. so. i think, maybe i should text her again. maybe ask something casual? but at the same time i’m afraid i am acting overly-obsessive and creepy. is it even healthy? should i text her or leave her alone? i want an honest reality check before i make a fool of myself.

Hi PomPom!

Honestly, it doesn’t sound like she’s given you any indication that this is unwanted contact. People can text really differently, and some people tend to take longer to reply or just don’t reply to certain things. I also think that’s totally something you could ask about if you feel comfortable doing so.

I do think it sounds like you still like her and might want to ask her how she feels! If it were me, I would text her and clarify that conversation about theater club. You can say it was pretty loud when you were talking and you weren’t sure if she said she’d want to go with you or not. If she says she’d go with you, maybe you can plan a time to go together! How does that sound?

i honestly don’t want to go to the theatre club myself, it’s just was a very flattering thing to hear (or imagine). i would like to ask something different but i’m afraid that i’ll seem weird if i text her like right away after we saw each other.

That wouldn't be weird, I actually would even say that's the best time to text her. It makes sense you saw her so you are thinking of her, and not in a "creepy" way. As Kier said, she hasn't given any signs that the contact from you is unwanted, and the energy has been reciprocated. It would be perfectly okay to text her and ask how her summer was or something like that to start the conversation.