I'm pretty sure I'm just incapable of being turned on??

[!actua1ange1!]

I mean, I do get horny/turned on. But like? When I start to masturbate that all disappears. And I also feel like when I do get turned on, it's gone in a flash. Just one hit and that's it. I'll still be craving it; I just don't know how to feel good. Also my vag itself and my clit aren't at all that sensitive. Like I'll touch myself and get a little wet and just feel fine. Just fine. Not good, not bad, just like if I was touching my knee or something. I've tried all the advice to take it slow and sensual and stuff, but it just feels like nothing makes me feel good. I'm also defiantly not as sensitive as some of my friends. We'll have conversations about it, and I feel so weird hearing them describe the feeling of overstimulation at putting a tampon in, let alone fingers. But I have, and again. Just fine. A little stretch, pain, maybe, but none of the pleasure that's supposed to come with it. Masturbation really just feels like, I don't know, fidgeting with my fingers or something. I dunno, I just wanna figure this out. I'm at the age where my friends are starting to loose their virginities, and I want to feel confident that when I try, I'll feel something. I don't want to just sit there, but at the rate I'm going... Anyways. This has all been extremely embarrassing but please send help.

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Hi !actua1ange1! Welcome to the boards ^_^

Thanks for sharing your worries here, no judgment at all! It's completely understandable that you feel worried and embarrassed, because sexuality isn't something most people are properly taught, be it at home or at school, but you've come to the right place.

My previous message was longer, but I've cut it so we can focus on your main question first. Regarding your own masturbation sessions, have you checked out our articles and advice columns on masturbation? Some of them does include tips that you've mentioned like taking it slow, but maybe you'll find new things in them as well. For example, in your message it sounds like you don't feel much sensation in your vagina. Well, that's completely normal, since the vulva's most sensitive part is in fact the clitoris and not the vaginal canal itself. It is possible to stimulate your G-spot, but it takes practice! I'll link some of our pieces below to start:
- Article: The Great Arousal Mismatch: When Bodies and Brains Don't Line Up
- Article: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body
- Article: Quickies: Sexual Anatomy
- Advice: I can't orgasm or find the right places on my anatomy
- Advice: No sexual sensitivity?

Does this sound good to you? I'm here if you'd like to explore other things you've mentioned. ^^