A Good Problem to much pleasure!

[CuteKitten]

Hi all Volunteers and readers of Scarleteen, I am first going to doing a little preamble before launching into my main questions!

So particularly over the last week I have been reading a lot of the articles of scarleteen. It’s great seeing the new articles of different toys that are used for people who have vaginas (and can be used for penises as well) as I have heard that in particular people who are AFAB masturbation can be a very taboo topic. Recently I reread the article: With Pleasure A View Of Whole Sexual Anatomy For Everyone! I love that article, I am a bit of a book worm and I am fascinated when finding out new information, I found it really interesting when in send in the first 3rd of the Vagina 90 percent of the nerve ending are found. So my first question I (know this is generic and apologies) what do people with vaginas find appealing about deeper penetration? I also read the article: Innies and Outies, the Vagina Clitoris , Uterus and More, as I think it’s important to educate are self about people with different sexual anatomy! Also great it’s got over 14 million views well done Heather and everyone at Scarleteen!!!!!

Also warning my next part of the article is probably NSFW if this is not ok please just message me and not ban me I still am a bit sensitive to that online incident months ago and I won’t post this kind of thing again if it’s not ok (I know I should be over it and I’m a lot better but saying vulnerable stuff still make me a bit anxious.)

So after reading that article I decided to try and give prostate stimulation a try. I was interested for a long time and was curious and rather horny. So I masturbated like I normal do stimulating my penis but I also massage my perennial region and also when I pressed deeper felt a lump that was very pleasure I assumed is my prostate. When I orgasm I think I felt my pc muscles contract a lot and something deeper can’t think of a better word pulsated. I felt like I had lost complete control of my body my head was shaking uncontrollably my legs where tensing and my feet where almost cramping it last longer than most orgams and was way more intense! I was scared but also knew I would be getting ok. Afterwards it took a few minutes for me to stop heavy breathing and my body to relax and my brain felt really different like I could feel something changing in me.I was completely exhausted in a good way but also super relaxed and deeply pleasured I have never experienced something like this before! A few days later I masturbated without prostate stimulation and it was good but didn’t compare to what I felt the previous time I am almost a little sad (I know that a bit silly) but it’s like know I had reached a different kind of pleasure other pleasurable feelingsdon’t feel as good as they used to and I guess I am comparing to that experience

Also again I apologise in advance if this was to graphic I know I’m older and you have younger readers I hope my NSFW warning was enough to stop young readers, and I did read the scarleteen policy/guidlines so thought it was ok to post.

[mikky]

Hey!

We usually don’t use the word “penetration” in our education for several reasons, including that it is just kind of inaccurate and misleading! The idea that a penis or toy or hand or other object is just forcefully going into a vagina or anus or mouth…. It doesn’t seem so pleasurable at all for the receiving person, right? In fact, it can be quite disconcerting in how it better describes assault or violence than pleasure.

During intercourse, the vaginal wall muscles are reacting, pulling in, holding, and PARTICIPATING! Yay!

Heather actually wrote a piece a longggg time ago in response to someone asking a really similar question to you, I wonder if you’ve seen it: Why would intercourse feel good for women?

Having something/someone “deeper” inside can be pleasurable for many reasons, including emotionally driven ones, or desire for a feeling of pressure or fullness. Let’s also remember this is a part of the body that has a lottt of stuff going on, so pressure within the vaginal canal can stimulate the internal parts of the clitoris and other nearby muscles and organs.

As for your own exploration!

Scarleteen is a sexual health website, so NSFW doesn’t really apply for our users- it’s not your workplace! As always, we ask for folks to be respectful and will set boundaries when needed, but we don’t get angry when people misunderstand or need more information I know you had a really rough experience where an online community did not take that kind of care, and I hope we can continue to be a different kind of space.

That sounds much like the descriptions of prostate orgasms that I’ve read from others- there are more pelvic contractions associated with orgasms from prostate stimulation than from penis stimulation. Sometimes intense experiences like that can just be overwhelming, and it’s okay to take a break or to want to try even more! I don’t think it’s silly to find that a different experience feels less intense in comparison. Do you want to share more about how you feel having done this exploration?

[CuteKitten]

Hi all Volunteers and readers of Scarleteen, I am first going to doing a little preamble before launching into my main questions!

So particularly over the last week I have been reading a lot of the articles of scarleteen. It’s great seeing the new articles of different toys that are used for people who have vaginas (and can be used for penises as well) as I have heard that in particular people who are AFAB masturbation can be a very taboo topic. Recently I reread the article: With Pleasure A View Of Whole Sexual Anatomy For Everyone! I love that article, I am a bit of a book worm and I am fascinated when finding out new information, I found it really interesting when in send in the first 3rd of the Vagina 90 percent of the nerve ending are found. So my first question I (know this is generic and apologies) what do people with vaginas find appealing about deeper penetration? I also read the article: Innies and Outies, the Vagina Clitoris , Uterus and More, as I think it’s important to educate are self about people with different sexual anatomy! Also great it’s got over 14 million views well done Heather and everyone at Scarleteen!!!!!

Also warning my next part of the article is probably NSFW if this is not ok please just message me and not ban me I still am a bit sensitive to that online incident months ago and I won’t post this kind of thing again if it’s not ok (I know I should be over it and I’m a lot better but saying vulnerable stuff still make me a bit anxious.)

So after reading that article I decided to try and give prostate stimulation a try by massaging my perennial region. It was really super intense and it felt like I had lost complete control over my body but it also felt good. My question is now I have experience this kind of intense pleasure other things that were super pleasurable just don’t seems as good as they used which is a bit of a shame.

Also again I apologise in advance if this was to graphic I know I’m older and you have younger readers I hope my NSFW warning was enough to stop young readers, and I did read the scarleteen policy/guidlines so thought it was ok to post.

[CuteKitten]

Hi sorry about the last post I was trying to edit my first post and made it a lot less graphic I wasn’t trying to make it another post.

I also wanted to say I really wasn’t trying to be tricky and make trouble with my post. I should have thought about the wider implications of what I said as if someone young did read it, it could have made them very uncomfortable. I was just curious about understanding my body and realise that’s not an excuse for my actions and am trying to make amends. Also I want to stress that it was never my intention to make scarleteen as you said “my workplace” I would like someone clarify for me is it about the frequency of my post the graphic description I said or both?

I would like to talk more but before I discuss further, I want to make sure I’m not in Scarleteens bad books first

[Sofi]

Hi CuteKitten, you're okay, no worries! You are not on our bad books at all. Mikky was just educating on our word preferences, and assuring you that you don't need to tag any posts as NSFW since we are here for sex ed. That's what they meant by this isn't your workplace

[CuteKitten]

Hi Sofi and Mikky,
Thanks for clarifying with me and telling me I’m not in trouble. Also when I had posted my last response I had found out a good older friend of mine in her early 40s has breast cancer that really shook me and scared me. I want you to know I AM NOT LOOKING FOR MENTAl HEALTH advice as that’s not the purpose of Scarleteen but maybe that might be why in some eyes why I overreacted in my post as Mikky wasn’t really telling me of. Please send my apologies to Mikky if you can.

I did read the post you sent me Mikky and found it really informative so thank you as I don’t have a vagina it’s hard to understand these things. Also I fully agree with your wording as penetrating does have negative connotation associated with it. What do you think would be a better word as an alternative.

What I mean about when I tried prostate stimulation it just felt almost to good. Like it’s like if I have a penile orgasm (I know I should not classify it as that as the main sex organ is the brain but I don’t know what else to call it) it just doesn’t have the same effect as it used to. It’s like in a wired way my perception of pleasure has changed a bit. It also makes me think if I try anal stimulation maybe it would feel even more powerful but I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing as my pleasure system seems a bit all over the place.

[char]

Hi CuteKitten! I'll let Mikky know about your apology, and I am sorry to hear about the bad news regarding your friend

Instead of "penetration," it's a good idea to call it intercourse/vaginal intercourse. There's also a specific term for when a partner with a penis inserts their penis into their partner's vagina: PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex.

I think your perception being changed is only natural, since it was only the first time you discovered prostate stimulation and orgasmed from it. That said, it doesn't mean that you won't be able to orgasm from penis stimulation ever again, or that you can only orgasm from prostate stimulation from now on. If you'd like to try anal stimulation, I think it'd be a good idea to start slow and gentle; instead of going straight to using a dildo (whether a DIY or a store-bought one), you can experiment with a lube and a finger, this time more intentionally than when you first stimulated it. What do you think?