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I’m a trans teenager who recently got on testosterone (4 months!) and it’s really upped my libido. I think I’m probably somewhere on the ace spectrum since before going on T I had a very low libido/desire for sex or masturbation and had never tried to masturbate before (although I think I was sometimes unconsciously doing so while sleeping or being half awake).

However, I’ve been getting interested in masturbating/trying to orgasm and I haven’t had a lot of luck. The first few times I tried I felt like I was sort of able to get somewhere but I stopped because it felt sort of overwhelming & I haven’t really been able to get back there since. I’ve been having some bottom growth as well from the T so some parts are pretty sensitive when I’m turned on and I’m not super sure how to navigate having an ‘atypical’ vagina/vulva. I’ve looked into what some other trans guys have said about this sort of thing but so far it hasn’t really worked for me. Mostly, trying to masturbate is either a little pleasurable but doesn’t really feel like it’s going anywhere or it feels like nothing/feels uncomfortable. I’ve done some research & I do have a good environment for it (privacy, aroused beforehand, I even have lube lol). I know the answer is probably to be patient and keep trying what feels good, just asking to see if people have any extra advice.

Hello and welcome to the boards, Uvtfjy! Congratulations on four months on testosterone!

You may indeed just need more time to adjust to the hormonal changes from HRT and explore these new desires, but we can definitely chat about other approaches you could take with this. You've mentioned that you've looked into the things other trans guys have recommended, but they haven't worked for you--could you tell us a bit more about what you've tried already? If you've been feeling sensitive due to bottom growth, does it help to touch from over a barrier, like clothes?

Hi again, thanks!

I actually was able to solve my problem on my own shortly after posting and am back to ask more about orgasm specifically. I know having an orgasm isn’t necessary to masturbate, but I’m still curious/interested. Right now I’m definitely able to get to sort of a ‘building’ sensation which is pretty intense & does feel good but after a minute it levels out and trying to continue feels a bit sensitive or numb. Do you have any advice about this sort of thing? (I’m planning to check out some of the articles on it too)

Hi there, Uvtfjy!

Wow, that was fast, happy to hear it’s not an issue anymore!

The experience of orgasm varies a lot from person to person as well as from one time to another, so one day it might feel like "wait, was that it?" and the next absolutely mind-blowing. But in general, it takes time to learn more about what our minds and bodies like (specially since you are now experiencing changes in both with the T!), it is a reason why many people report having the best sexual experience later rather than sooner in their lives. So my first advice is to give yourself time and space to explore all this, enjoy the exploring and try to stay in the "curious/interested" mindset. After all this is still really new for you and trying to get an orgasm can be a sure way to not experiencing any.

Hoping you find the info you are looking for in the articles! Let us know if they bring out new question or something needs clearing.

To make sure you don’t miss it, I really recommend this one: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide There is also a bit about how orgasms can feel in it.