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As mentioned in my prior posts, I was having trouble with erections and once I had an erection I was finding it difficult to orgasm. My masturbation technique is definitely the problem and the fact that I was stimulating myself at the tip of the penis and there was a cloth in between the hand and the penis is the issue. I am trying to change it by masturbating more form the base of the penis to give it a more realistic sensation as I would feel during sex, but I can't orgasm and it is frustrating. Anyone else had the same issue? I am thinking of buying a fleshlight. What would be closest to the original feeling of being within a woman's vagina.

Hello AllyChaseBofa,

As Char mentioned in your last thread, we can't make any recommendations on whether you should use a sex toy, or which one you should use--that really is up to you because we can't know how you will feeling. I'm glad to hear that you have a sense of what is causing your difficulties with orgasm and what you might change to help with the issue. Now, it is just a matter of giving yourself time to make that change and seeing what happens.

I want to note that at Scarleteen, our expertise is as a resource is for teens and emerging adults. You may find advice that is more relevant to your experiences if you go to forum that is visited by your peers or provides sex education for all ages. And, as always, you could also speak to your doctor for advice about sexual function and pleasure.