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I have two questions.

First, how can a girl experience squirting through penetration rather than through finger stimulation? Is there usually a specific amount of time required for this to happen?

Second, my partner climaxes multiple times during foreplay, during sex, and sometimes even after sex. Does this generally mean she is sexually satisfied? People often say that when a girl climaxes, it indicates satisfaction. I just want to understand this better, especially since my partner tells me she is satisfied with me and with penetration.

Hi fiqu, welcome back!

To answer your first question, I think it's essential to get some things straight. "Squirting" as we see in porn isn't as common in real life; a lot of people with vulvas do not ejaculate when orgasming, and it's not required for sex to be "good." If they do ejaculate, most of the time it won't like what sexual videos would show. Mainstream porn tends to portray sex in a way that ensures everything they show is arousing (especially to cisgender, heterosexual men), whether it's realistic or not. As mentioned in one of our articles about ejaculation (which I'll link below), stimulating the G-spot paired with stimulating the inside and outside parts of the clitoris can result in ejaculation, but it won't always happen, and if it does, there is no guarantee that someone will ejaculate in a way we casually refer to as "squirting." It might be a good idea to observe your partner when she orgasms; how does she usually feel?

For your second question: technically speaking, orgasm alone doesn't always mean someone feels good and satisfied, since people who are sexually assaulted can still be aroused and orgasm. The best way to know if your partner feels satisfied is to ask her, and believe what she says.

You might find these articles helpful:
- Squirt: On Ejaculation
- Female Ejaculation and Partnered Sex?
- Making Sense of Sexual Media
- Sex on Screen: Reality-Checking Mainstream Porn
- Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide
- Feeling Good When You're Feeling Bad: Dealing with Unwanted or Confusing Sexual Arousal