Can I just not label myself as straight?

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Puppylovesball
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Can I just not label myself as straight?

Unread post by Puppylovesball »

Well I'm back and I just wanted to know I could just not label myself at all. I still dont know who I am yet. I guess that fine.

I trying to enjoy certain media but I cant im not feeling it . I hear that fandom spaces and things like fanfiction and edits help people explore and figure out themself but I cant get myself into it or to watch movies.I dont know if its says anything about me or I'm scared that if i like something it'll say something I dont like.
But I dont feel romantic bubbly when I read f/f stuff at least not as much. It makes me sad.

I tried writing and journaling and drawing but nothing works. At least I couldnt bring myself to do it. I dont feel like it.
I'm probably straight and I just dont want to be. But I guess im a demiboy and genderfluid.
I dont want to label myself straight tho I guess. I just want to be me?? but I dont know why I feel bad being unlabeled

PS:Is their any alternative to binding chest tape? I dont thinki have money to buy anything online. Can you be a demiboy without medically transitioning? I wanted to take a little but I'm scared of losing hair and bottom growth
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Re: Can I just not label myself as straight?

Unread post by lilikoi »

Hi there puppylovesball,

To respond to the question in the title of your post, you can absolutely refrain from labels. One of my favorite pieces on our website is this one: Living without Labels. Labels help us feel connected to other people so rejecting a label can make it feel like you are alone. That isn't the case! There are plenty of people out there who don't subscribe to a label. I use the word queer if someone asks but when I think about myself, I tend to not categorize who I am. I just want to float through the world and be who I want to be when it feels right. It's okay to live that way!

In response to your question about binding tape, there are also pull over binders, zippered binders, and side hook options. Here is a resource with information about choosing a binder: Disabled and Trans Sexual Health
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Re: Can I just not label myself as straight?

Unread post by darkingbog »

hi puppy, it's completely okay to not know who you are yet and it's completely okay to not want a label! i'm in a similar boat, feeling "not-quite-straight," and struggling to find media that represents how i experience attraction. it's hard when you feel bad being unlabeled but it's something that i'm trying to accept, spending more time with affirming experiences instead of trying to figure myself out so much. we kind of are who we are and it's okay not to have a succinct way to explain that.

much love,
darkingbog
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