Inconspicuous disposable sex toys for a 13 year old?

[Aspin]

Hi, I'm a 13 year old assigned male at birth, and I was wondering if there's any disposable/one use diy sex toys that wouldn't look suspicious in a trash can. I've been getting more into masturbation lately, and I usually do it in the bathroom. I've only used m hands on my penis so far an find it decently enjoyable, but I've wanted to try a sex toy for penile/anal play. I'm way too scared to ask my parent to buy me one, so I want to know if I have any options to try. (I do want to note that I do not have any access to condoms of any kind, thought I do have access to lubricant that my mom repackaged as intimate area shampoo. I would also like to avoid the classic cucumber/ carrot, as I won't be able o get that in/out of a bathroom and can't sanitize it.)
P.S.: If it's possible, are there any strategies for talking to my parents about buying an actual toy? they're open about sexual topics, but they seem like they might be against me doing things of the sort at this age.

[Aspin]

Forgot to add this in the original post, but I've looked at your diy sex toys aricle and nothing there will work for me.

[mikky]

Hey Aspin, welcome!

You say the DIY sex toys described in the article won’t work for you- any particular reasons why? Is not having access to condoms the big barrier? With some more context as to why the ideas there won’t work, we might be able to brainstorm some more. A pretty accessible, discreet and safe tool for anal play is going to be your own clean fingers.

I will say that condoms are generally going to be much easier to find and store, and often to talk to your parents about than any sex toys. We get some folks who are your age or a bit older who ask us about talking to parents about toys, and I have to say, it’s really tough from our outsider perspective to say how your parents might receive that.


Also, can you tell us a little more about this repackaged lubricant you have access to? Are you certain that it is lubricant and not actually shampoo? Is this something that your mom talked to you about or offered for you to use?

[Aspin]

Thanks for the help! I really can't see condoms as an option a my parents have gotten very mad at me in the past for hiding things (not even sexual things, usually it was just 1 or 2 pieces of candy after Halloween. I know that it's lubricant from confirming with my mom what it is and that it was available if I needed it (they seem to use it personally, but promised to keep the package and contents sanitary if I "ever needed it for something". I think that I can try just with my fingers for anal, since using the sink isn't really suspicious and I can do some other research to find save ways to do anal fingering. Do you still have any recommendations on penile play?

[Becky]

Hey Aspin! So glad Mikky's answer was helpful for you. I think they gave some great advice about using your fingers for now. When starting out with anal play, it's important to start slow and small and use LOTS of lube! Don't try to force anything either.

Here are some articles about anal sex and pleasure that you might find interesting or useful; now or even in the future.

• Anal Sex Lowdown

• How to Play With Toys: Butt Plugs

• Anal Sex: No Different?

• Pelvis Problems AKA Pain With Butt Stuff

For penises, that DIY sex toy article might be more useful here. For a disposable option, lots of people with penises use toilet paper tubes with a latex glove/nitrile glove inside. For a reusable but washable option there's always the classic sock!

[mikky]

Aspin, I want to add that if your parents are cluing you in to lube, they might be very willing to let you have a supply of condoms as well. It doesn’t necessarily need to be something you hide, especially if your parents are already considering your sexuality, exploration and safety. Maybe this isn't a conversation you have this week, or even this year, but sometime I suggest letting them know you would like to keep a few condoms around to get familiar with them. It also might be a good time to chat with them about privacy, boundaries, and what expectations you should have around that. If they've been upset about hiding things in the past, I wonder what was specifically (if anything) they were upset about, like lying, breaking an expectation or guideline, attracting a swarm of ants, etc. Does that make sense?

[Aspin]

thanks so much you two! I'll make sure to read those articles, but I'm probably going too to hold off on condoms for now. My mom and dad seem to have differing opinions about sex, and my only form of electronic payment is linked to an app that lets my dad track my purchases. I do think that my om was expecting that I use the lube a bit later in life, but I'll use it well. We've never had ant problems, but I think my mom was mad in the past about the secret-keeping in general. Thanks once again!