Can't feel pleasure when masturbating

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Can't feel pleasure when masturbating

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Hello
I'm on my twenties and still a virgin
I've tried several times to touch myself, but I can't feel any pleasure. I do feel a kind of unpleasant sensation(?) but never pleasure.
After I masturbate my body do produce vaginal fluid but I guess that's mechanical.
Also I have to add that it produced vaginal fluid, and my belly felt warm sometimes when I read porn but it's pretty rare.
I don't really know what to do.
Thanks
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Re: Can't feel pleasure when masturbating

Unread post by mikky »

hi Horizon, welcome to the boards!
I'm sorry to hear that when you've explored masturbation you're only feeling something unpleasant right now. I am going to ask a bunch of questions to help us understand more your experience and how we might be able to help.
Does it feel physically unpleasant (like too harsh, overstimulating, painful, rough), or more mentally unpleasant (unfamiliar, wrong, guilty, confusing)? Can you tell us more about the unpleasantness?
When you have explored this touch, what was your mental space going in? Were you feeling aroused (that warm belly feeling)?
Have you tried different types of touch in different areas? This article lists some different ways that people with vulvas might masturbate: How Do You Masturbate?. How you engage with masturbation is totally up to you, and all of us are going to find different things pleasurable.
What motivates you to masturbate? This is a question more for you to think about than to actually answer (unless you want to!).

Two other articles to start are Take a Self-Love Road Trip: Let Curiosity Guide Your Masturbation and Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation
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