Scarleteen

Ive been with my boyfriend for a year. At first, I went out of my way to hang out with him and get to know him and all, but idk why now, since im more comfortable with him, im like physically incapable of being with him when we're not just the 2 of us. At school or with my friends, I just physically can't be in "relationship mode" with him anymore and he feels unwanted. Im uncomfortable with doing PDA and all, and he knows, but he stills feels unloved and ashamed. What do I do?????!!!!

Hi emmy09!

This sounds like a tough feeling. I am wondering if you'd want to share a little more about what it feels like when the two of you are alone. In relationships (both romantic, sexual, and platonic) we tend to continue seeking out intimacy and closeness as the relationship grows. This often looks like spending time together doing mundane things or seeking each other out for support.

Because your feelings have changed I think it is important to ask how you are feeling about the relationship overall. Maybe thinking about if it is a relationship you are really wanting to continue?