Scarleteen

I(mtf 16), recently engaged in sexual interaction for the first time. It mainly consisted of a handjob. It was easy to get an erection and maintain it. However, after ~20 minutes of continued activity, even if I wanted to, I couldn't ejaculate. I a know a little bit about ED, but I'm pretty sure it's mainly with having problems gaining/maintaining an erection or premature ejaculation. Obviously I'm not asking for a diagnosis, I'm just a bit worried whether or not this is normal or whether I should consult a medical professional, as it may be a health issue. Any advice how to, when engaging in sexual activity, to reach a climax earlier(especially when it's harder to control the setting/activity/etc)?

Hi psysharm! Sometimes we may not ejaculate, whether or not we orgasm; our ability to ejaculate is influenced by multiple things, including if we're feeling tired or if the stimulation starts to become overwhelming (especially if there was continued stimulation without pause). Would you say this is something you experienced?

To answer your second question: this may be a cliche one, but the key is to consistently communicate with your partner(s) on what feels good and what doesn't. And that doesn't guarantee instant or quicker orgasm, either--nothing does. What you'd want to focus on instead is being present and not feeling like you're being rushed. Do you get what I mean?