Scarleteen

First of all, I wanted to say sorry because I've made the stupid decision regarding my sex life and to tell you that he is my first boyfriend.

First, 4 days before my fertile window, I had sex with my boyfriend. Here are the details of the sex and I'm so sorry because these might be a lot:
DAY 1:
1. The first incident, we only touch each others like he f*nger me and I gave hin oral sex.
2. The next one, from start to finished, he was using condom and we had a real rough sex. I checked the condom after and it was safe and didn't have any breakage.
3. Still, we use condom and still a rough sex. Still safe and no breakage.

DAY2
1. This incident happened at the morning after we woke up and this is so risky because this time we had raw sex. The first one was only about 1 minute of raw penetration and he cum on my mouth after.
2. Later in the afternoon, we had another raw sex for about 5-10 minutes. He cum on my mouth again.
3. The third one is after eating dinner and still another raw penetration for 5 minutes I guess and he always cum on my mouth, basically like a pull out method.

DAY 4 FINAL INCIDENT
We still did another pull out method but this time, it's less than 5 minutes although we've done humping and we're completely naked. We've done it for a while.

Please rate my pregnancy risk because I'm having a pregnancy scare right now even though my period is expected within the end of September. Just want assurance that there is still riskier incident than mine and as I've read health can also vary in order for pregnancy to be possible. Note that we were both stress prior to that one and I haven't enough sleep plus I'm a malnourish po.

Hi unkwn, thanks for waiting. First of all, you don't need to apologize! You're not stupid for having sex with your boyfriend. Now that you're here, we can chat about what's going on and what you should pay attention to going forward.

In your post, you mentioned that you and your boyfriend had sex three out of the four days before your fertile window. Just to be clear, does this mean that you didn't have sex on the third day? I'd also like to let you know that, unless you also measure your basal temperature, the ovulation date you see on your period tracker app (if you use that) will not be accurate.

There's always a risk of STIs and pregnancy when the penis and the vulva make contact with each other and interlock without any barriers (like underwear and condoms), and the risk is much higher if ejaculation (be it from the penis or the vulva) is present during the rubbing and/or interlocking. STIs can also occur when we give or receive unprotected oral sex. That said, since your boyfriend never ejaculated in your vagina during these four days, it's safe to say that pregnancy isn't a risk here. You can take a pregnancy test if you'd like just to be sure, but it'll only work after the typical start of your period but you didn't get any. However, it would be great if the both of you could get tested in the coming days. Does this answer your question?

You can read more about period tracking, STI and pregnancy risk of sexual activities, and pregnancy scare here:
- On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation
- Get With the Flow: All About FAM
- Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
- Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
- The Pregnancy Panic Companion: When a Period Isn't Late or Missed
- You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are?
- Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

Hello, thank you so much for answering. I am so grateful with this platform and you truly helped my mind to be at ease. And to make it clear, yes we didn't have sex on the third day. And yes I'm aware about STI and I'll make sure that next time, it will be protected na po. But I am just worried if my scenario can be considered as "high risk" scenario for pregnancy after all the pull-out method we've done in just a couple of days?

Glad to be of help! Withdrawal (or "pull-out") method can prevent pregnancy, but it needs to be done properly, especially if a condom isn't used. Otherwise, it is not as effective as other birth control methods out there. Considering your boyfriend ejaculated only in your mouth, there isn't a risk of pregnancy here. We have an article on withdrawal as a birth control here: Birth Control Bingo: Withdrawal

Forgot to add this to my previous post, but I'd also like to let you know that you won't see us staff and volunteers use the word "penetration" to describe any sort of intercourse (vaginal/anal). "Penetration" implies that the interlocking involved is forceful, violent, and an act only done by one party--when in reality any kind of sexual activity, intercourse included, involves willful, consensual, and active participation from two (or more) people. Shifting the way we talk about intercourse can also help us reinforce the idea that sex isn't something our partner(s) does to us or the opposite; it's an act shared between people who trust each other.

Do these clear things up for you?