pregnancy scare after losing virginity

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I just turned 18 not so long ago. Please be patient with me as I have never had sex ed in secondary school and everything I'm experiencing is very new to me

My last period started on September 30th and ended on October 4-5. According to my period trackers my estimated date for period is November 5th. According to my app, it says that my ovulation day will be on October 21st. I did not take any plan b pills.

I had sex on October 10th in the morning. He used a condom during penetration but I took it off halfway to perform oral. We tried the penetration a few times and kept stopping because it hurt a lot for me. He finished on my face and chest area. We checked the condom by filling it with water and found no holes. But I'm still very scared of the what ifs and contamination.

On October 11th at night I noticed some blood which looked dried up. There was no discharge and it was only a drop. People said it was most likely bleeding due to me losing my virginity.

On October 15th I had a very bad scare and started to eat a lot of pineapples and papayas with the seeds (I know it's stupid). On October 16th I ate more than I did the past few days. October 17th, when brushing my tongue in the morning, I threw up. Like it just shot out once and it looked yellow and watery which was kinda scary.

I had very light spotting on October 17th like really little. On October 18th I saw more light red blood in my discharge (more than the past few days). On october 18, when wiping I saw blood in my discharge again. But this time it was dark red brownish and way more obvious which is even more scary considering the fact that when i did some research it could either be ovulation or implantation bleeding. PLUS I won't get accurate results if i test now and i still have to wait longer which is driving me nuts..

I actually went to a gp clinic on October 12 for a consultation and ultrasound to check on myself and honestly the doctor only told me that the best I can do is wait to take the pregnancy test just in case. As for the ultrasound, the doctor said that everything looks normal so that's a relief.

I have been so stressed about this and not able to sleep soundly despite knowing my chances are thin. I absolutely cannot tell my parents about this and I don't really have any other trusted adults around me whom i feel safe to talk about this to. Please let me know what's happening if possible and what I should do.

[Heather]

Welcome to the boards. <3 No need to apologize for not getting sex ed: that certainly wasn't your fault! And this is what we're here for.

Something important to know is that menstrual tracking apps CANNOT give accurate estimates of ovulation ahead of time. They simply don't ask for enough information to do that: knowing when periods have happened just isn't enough. I don't know why so many of them keep acting like they can do that, it only seems to cause people stress, and it also gives people a false confidence in knowing when they ovulate, which can also create real problems for people. In the future, if you do want to be able to track your ovulation more accurately, this is what you need to do to do that:

You also never need to fill a condom with water to check for holes. Even a tiny hole in a condom will generally turn into a very visible rip in a few strokes. If your condoms broke in any way, rest assured that you would have been able to tell very easily.

It sounds like there was always a condom on during intercourse (and if you want, let's talk about how you don't have to keep trying anything sexual when it's hurting, and how that actually isn't a good way to go for a few reasons). I also want to make sure you wanted your partner to ejaculate on your face and chest, rather than that being something he just did because he wanted to.

It also sounds like you barfed because you ate a lot of fruit and then more food than usual, but regardless, even if you had become pregnant from this, you would have only *just* become so by the 17th, and usually too soon for morning sickness. There simply haven't been the hormonal changes yet to create that symptom. Implantation bleeding is also very rare, and rarely something people will even know happened when it does. If and when it does happen, it is only very brief, very light spotting. People also do not bleed with ovulation, though some will occasionally have very, very light spotting, once more, usually unnoticeable. It sounds to me like what you were seeing was some old flow from a previous period, which can happen sometimes.

It's not seeming very likely to me you will have become pregnant, but it does sound to me like you'd feel a whole lot better if you could see a pregnancy test with a negative result on it. It's too soon for you to get an accurate result yet -- usually the body will start making the hCg hormone a test tests for around the same time you'd expect a period -- but are you able to get one so you can take it around the end of this month/the start of the next one?