Scarleteen

So I had unprotected sex with my partner a few times recently. I didn't ejaculate, however I had done so earlier that day, and during intercourse some precum definitely got inside. They haven't had their period this month so understandably we're somewhat concerned. I'd say we're a healthy couple, we can talk to each other about stuff, and we understand they have options and choice about those options.

I am wondering though, how should I go about this? I understand it's a pretty big deal if I actually have impregnated them, and I tend to overthink about how they may be feeling which stresses me out. Just looking for general advice, I suppose

Hey 5er!

You are right, direct contact with pre-ejaculate can cause pregnancy. The best thing you can do now is support her in getting a pregnancy test in a few weeks. How do you feel about that?

That's exactly my plan. I'm actually going to try and see them today, and if that's not possible then I'm also seeing them on Friday. Will post again with results

I understand it's a pretty big deal if I actually have impregnated them, and I tend to overthink about how they may be feeling which stresses me out.

I also want to add that this piece may well be solved for by asking them how they are feeling and taking them at their word, rather than projecting your ideas about their feelings unto them or yourself. By all means, a possible pregnancy is usually a huge deal, especially for teens, who most often very much do not want to be pregnant or be a parent yet. So, it may well be that their feelings about this are big because yeah, even just being at risk of a pregnancy in your own body you don't actually want is hugely stressful for most people. But there's no need for you to project how they may be feeling when they can just tell you, you know?

One other thing you can do is talk with them about unprotected intercourse and other sex. Is that a risk they actually want to be taking with you? If not -- and if you two don't intend to create a pregnancy, this won't ever be a good idea, because withdrawal is just so, so easy to mess up, which is why it's the least effective method of pregnancy prevention -- how about a talk together where you make a commitment not to do this again, or not to do this again until or unless another effective form of birth control is in the mix?