Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

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Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

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Hello.How are you?

My question is in the title.
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Re: Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

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Pedophilia is a term that describes a feeling, not an action. It describes a feeling of sexual attraction to a pre-pubescent child on the part of an adult. It does NOT describe anyone doing anything with those feelings. So, no.

Feelings can't be abuses, because feelings are what is just inside one person, and aren't about anything someone does: abuses are about actions, about things that can have impact on other people.
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Re: Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

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What about pedophilia when an adult man has sex with a child? Is that then sexual abuse?
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Re: Does pedophilia count as sexual abuse?

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If an adult engages in sexual behavior with someone under the legal age of consent, that is considered sexual assault, which is a sexual abuse. Pedophilia, again, is a word that only describes feelings, not actions.
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