Squirting

[BabyTammy]

So, this is my first time actually enjoying sex because I just started and all this is new to me.
I noticed that when he used his fingers in a particular way, It felt sooo good I began to tear up (cry). But, I also felt this urge to pee. When he stops moving his fingers the feeling goes away (the urge to pee). So I told him and he said I should let loose and that I’m prolly about to squirt. I did exactly that, and felt a gush after which I ran to the bathroom to pee…coming back to my bed, it really smelt like pee. Why did this happen even though I didn’t feel like peeing earlier

[Andy]

Hi there, and welcome to the boards!

What you are describing sounds a lot like you experienced the so called "female ejaculation" aka squirting.
The thing is, not even scientists have agreed on how exactly does it happen and what does the fluid coming out consist of. But it seems that while it is in some ways similar to urine, it differs notably regarding it’s composition. But as I said, they probably are alike in some ways, so it’s entirely possible it smells like urine would.

What I think is more important that the origin of the fluid is how you feel about it. You mentioned in your other thread that you felt embarrassed about it, do you want to share more about why you feel like that?
We don’t consider bodily fluids, no matter their origin, as anything to be ashamed of, just like period blood, ejaculate from penis or saliva for example aren’t.

[BabyTammy]

Well, embarrassing cuz it wasn’t a straight line kinda thing like the ones in those sites . Although I understand now that the way it’s presented in porn might not always be the way it is in real life

Also because I’m wondering what he’s thinking in his head maybe like ,“lol, did this girl acc pee thinking she squirted ”… Don’t get me he would never ever speak to me in a way that would make me feel bad about myself . I’m just a huge over thinker

Then the sites online talking about how the fluid the the Skene’s gland is supposed to have a sweet mild scent . Everything summed up just makes me feel weird .

[Andy]

You instinct that real-life sex rarely, and in many cases never, resembles the on portrayed in porn, is absolutely right! You can find more about that here (the "Vulvas and Vaginas in Porn" part has info about squirting specifically): Bare Bodies: Reality Checking Mainstream Porn

I hear you on the over-thinking and worrying what you partner might think. But the only way find to find out what someone is actually thinking is to ask them. How do you feel about talking with him about this? You can for example show him the article or this thread if you think it would be helpful. It would probably also be good to have a conversation about the next time you two have sex, if you want to have it of course, and consider something like having a towel underneath you or tissues ready nearby if you want, so you can worry less about the practical stuff around possible ejaculation.

I don’t know where do these sites have information nor if it’s in any way reliable, but to my understanding it is not entirely clear that the Skene’s glands are even the source. But either way, as I see it, how a fluid smells or whether it comes from the glands or from a bladder that is just a few centimeters away, doesn’t make one fluid "sexy" and the other "embarrassing" you know?

[BabyTammy]

Thank youuu very very much. I’m so glad I’ve found a space where I can get answers to MY questions instead of trying to relate others to mine and getting wrong info. Thanks again.

[Heather]

I also just want to add that ejaculation for those with a vulva comes through the urethra, the same place urine comes through, so that can also be part of why they are so easy to confuse and why ejaculate may have a urine-like smell.

I want to say, too, that it's honestly just a cultural belief we have -- not anything to do with health, for instance -- that ejaculate is an okay body fluid to share or have and urine isn't. In reality, both of these fluids are just fluids like others, like saliva, sweat or blood, of no greater or lesser value or acceptability. <3

[BabyTammy]

Thank you tooo