Chronic Clitoral Pain

[Boredpanda10]

I have ruined my clitoris with water jet masturbation.
I did the activity for more than 1 year, it never hurt me or anything. But suddenly one day i felt a sharp pain & ever since the pain is chronic. The pain is not constant, the pain goes away & comes back when triggered by touch of clothes or even water sometimes. Sometimes walking too much triggers the pain too. No discharge or anything else has come out ever. There's some white stuff stuck in there, in the clitoral hood i noticed. Maybe it could be keratin pearls, I'm not sure. I'm too ashamed for the deed i have done & i regret it. I have already sought medical advice online, at first i was confused about what could be causing the pain. I thought i had teared up the clitoral hood joint because it seemed so. I asked the Doc that i think i got a clitoral hood tear. Reading the symptoms he suggested it might be a minor cut only & will heal eventually. It healed but it returns with triggers like when wearing pads or any kind of touch. Currently the pain is different & it feels like a nerve pain to me, the pain goes deep inside & beyond the outer clitoris.
So i asked the Doc again that clitoris is in pain after longterm waterjet masturbation. He suggested it might be symptom of Nerve inflammation or irritation from the excessive stimulation.



Now I'm extremely confused about what may be causing the pain & is it permanent? Could this be permanent nerve damage or conditions like "Pudendal Neuralgia"?


I haven't lost any sensation there tho, it's just the pain & i don't know whom to say or ask so I'm just looking for an advice....

[Latha]

Hello and welcome, Boredpanda10!

I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been in pain. Lots of people masturbate with a shower head or bidet, and many people receive an injury during sex at some point in their lives. You haven’t ruined your clitoris, and you have nothing to be ashamed of — you just need medical care.

You’ve mentioned discussing your symptoms with a doctor, but it doesn’t sound like they examined you in person. Is that right? If so, a good next step would be to see a gynecologist and ask them to examine you. They’ll be able to diagnose exactly what this is without doubts and treat the pain you’ve been experiencing. If it is a keratin pearl, (though I am not a medical professional, that does seem consistent with your symptoms), they’ll be able to remove it.

You don’t have to worry, but I do advise making this a priority. Do you think you could visit a gynaecologist? If you would like, we could talk you through the process, and help you understand what you can expect.

[Boredpanda10]

Thank you for giving your time, going to a gynaecologist in person would be embarrassing i guess because I'm asian & i really don't have clue how to even say this to a Doc in person. Maybe i can say the symptoms to them but i can't really say the cause to them, cause that's taboo here.

[Sofi]

I understand, and I'm sorry you can't comfortably go to a gynecologist and talk about this openly. Still, it's really important you see someone in person since the pain is sharp and consistent. Perhaps you don't open with HOW it started, just the symptoms, and they will examine you and might be able to treat it without having to know what you were doing when it first started? It's worth a try and I'm sure even if you do end up telling them, this isn't the first or last patient they've had who masturbates, since it's such a common thing despite it being taboo in some places. Gynecologists are there to help with these things, and I want you to get the proper medical care you deserve <3

[Boredpanda10]

Thank You I will see.....

[Heather]

Hi there, boredpanda.

I still hope that you'll take the positive risk and seek out healthcare, but I did just want to mention that having read your thread, I think something may be going on here that actually has nothing to do with your masturbation (people are so ashamed about masturbation, they will often assume something wrong with their genitals must be because of it, when more times than not, it isn't). I also think it's possible this *may* be something you can try handling on your own if you are just deadset on not seeking out actually-qualified healthcare (not doctor should have suggested they could give you care without actually looking at this, btw, so whatever doctor you talked to doesn't sound like a very good one).

I think it's possible that what you have going on here, given the pain and white stuff you're describing, could be either an accumulation and hardening of smegma -- that's a collection of body oils and dead cells we often hear about most for folks with foreskins, but it can also be something present for people with vulvas, too -- or a very advanced yeast infection.

If it's the former, the smegma, you might be able to tend to this all by yourself by either taking a few hot baths over a handful of days you soak in for 15 minutes or so, while rubbing the area gently with fingers in the area of that white stuff to soften it, or, if you don't have a bathtub or access to it, do the same with a warm compress. I'd try this first no matter what since it might help and it can't do any harm.

If it's a severe yeast infection, again, your very best bet would be to see a gynecologist, and you may wind up needing to no matter what at some point since this clearly isn't something that sounds like it is resolving by itself. But if that is just something you will not do, I'd say it's probably worth a try to use an over-the-counter yeast infection treatment and see if that changes anything for you. If you are going to do that, I'd be sure and buy one that isn't one of the 1-3 day treatments, but something more in the 5-8 day window.

What I don't think is a good idea is to not do anything about this. I think you should ideally see a qualified healthcare provider in person or, though less ideally, try what I suggested above (and if one or both of those things don't work, accept that you will just need that healthcare, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable).

If you want to talk about how to seek out care and go through it even when you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable, I'm happy to talk about that with you, too. Your health is really important, and while I understand shame can make seeking out care really hard, I think it's worth feeling emotionally uncomfortable momentarily to tend to something that has been making you physically uncomfortable for a while now and which could be putting your overall health at risk. <3

[Boredpanda10]

Thank you very much for taking time to write all this


I have actually told my symptoms to an online doctor & that's why they couldn't say the cause accurately.
Well I'm feeling better now , the pain always goes away after some days. The pain always comes back by a trigger, if not triggered i don't feel the pain anymore. So the pads are what triggers it the most. So since the last 2 months it's just going like this wearing the pads trigger it & after some days i feel fine again.


This time, i felt like it's some kinda nerve pain because it spread to the pelvic area & a bit to the legs. Walking & sitting was uncomfortable.


Yesterday night i tried some pelvic floor exercises & i feel fine ever since.


I would have definitely tried what you described but i cannot really touch the clitoris, touching it hurts, even touch of clothes sometimes brings a bit of pain back.

I really appreciate you for all the suggestions.

[KierC]

Hey there!

I am so sorry to hear you experienced this, it sounds quite painful! But I’m glad to hear you’re doing better.

It sounds like it’s painful to directly touch your clitoris. Does it hurt to touch indirectly, like through the clitoral hood? In line with Heather’s suggestion, it might be possible to loosen some of the smegma by soaking in a warm bath and rubbing the clitoris indirectly with the clitoral hood.

[Boredpanda10]

Well thank you. Actually it hurts everywhere there even with the touch of water sometimes, so i just don't bother it with anything.

At very first, i felt the pain in hood, i thought i had a tear there because it kinda seemed like that.... It looks normal now but i can't touch anywhere.

[Heather]

So, this has clearly gotten to the point of being a medical emergency. If you can't go anywhere near a part of your body without it causing great pain, including being unable to clean it as a person needs to, and this has lasted for at least a few days -- and in your case, significantly longer -- then it really is time to go get healthcare.

Is there anything we can do to help you take the step of seeking out actual in-person healthcare, which you clearly need?

[Boredpanda10]

Okay, i will seek medical healthcare. No, thank you so much for taking all the time

[Heather]

Of course. Is there any support we can give you around managing your feelings of embarrassment when seeking care for this?

[Boredpanda10]

No, Thank You