I feel really lonely
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Anya
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Re: I feel really lonely
Hey Max3_3,
It sounds like you're in a pretty tough spot right now. I know what it's like to feel the isolation of living with family that doesn't seem to understand the weight of mental health and the need for external resources that can help alleviate some of that stress and emotional heaviness. It's such a complicated place to be, especially when in between therapists.
Can I ask what has helped you the most in past therapy environments? Figuring out what helps us best can be useful in narrowing options when looking for a free therapist or counselor. If you know that, for example, you really like someone to just listen, as opposed to someone who tries to give advice, or maybe you prefer someone of a specific gender, age, or political leaning, you can absolutely communicate with them before meeting. Writing a list of preferences or therapy types can help a provider recognize if they may or may not be the right person for you, letting them even possibly recommend others who suit your preferences more. This has helped me a lot when I had to change therapists and sit through toooo many first sessions just to realize I couldn't continue with them anyway (sometimes people just don't mesh).
Does this sound like something that might help narrow the search? Or if you feel it's too much to continue right now (understandable), are there therapy alternatives you can think of that might be beneficial to adopt? (talking with friends, school counselor, joining a new group or activity to distract from all the brain stuff rn, or writing about what you might otherwise say verbally in-session?).
It sounds like you're in a pretty tough spot right now. I know what it's like to feel the isolation of living with family that doesn't seem to understand the weight of mental health and the need for external resources that can help alleviate some of that stress and emotional heaviness. It's such a complicated place to be, especially when in between therapists.
Can I ask what has helped you the most in past therapy environments? Figuring out what helps us best can be useful in narrowing options when looking for a free therapist or counselor. If you know that, for example, you really like someone to just listen, as opposed to someone who tries to give advice, or maybe you prefer someone of a specific gender, age, or political leaning, you can absolutely communicate with them before meeting. Writing a list of preferences or therapy types can help a provider recognize if they may or may not be the right person for you, letting them even possibly recommend others who suit your preferences more. This has helped me a lot when I had to change therapists and sit through toooo many first sessions just to realize I couldn't continue with them anyway (sometimes people just don't mesh).
Does this sound like something that might help narrow the search? Or if you feel it's too much to continue right now (understandable), are there therapy alternatives you can think of that might be beneficial to adopt? (talking with friends, school counselor, joining a new group or activity to distract from all the brain stuff rn, or writing about what you might otherwise say verbally in-session?).
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Max3_3
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Re: I feel really lonely
I don't know, they just never listen to me. I feel like they don't understand me at all and maybe it's my fault, I don't really know. nothing helps anymore. Not even talking with friends helps. It's fine, I'll be okay eventually
Thank you for the help <3
Thank you for the help <3
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lilikoi
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Re: I feel really lonely
Hi Max3_3!
Hopping in here to say I feel for you deeply. It is so hard to feel at the end of a rope like there's nothing to do but wait for things to turn around on their own. Sometimes that instinct can drive us deeper and deeper into the bad feelings so I am glad you are reaching out for help!
It does feel like we've reached the end of our capacity to help with your situation for now. Is there something else you'd like to talk about? If not, we can put a pin in this thread/conversation until something changes in your situation!
Hopping in here to say I feel for you deeply. It is so hard to feel at the end of a rope like there's nothing to do but wait for things to turn around on their own. Sometimes that instinct can drive us deeper and deeper into the bad feelings so I am glad you are reaching out for help!
It does feel like we've reached the end of our capacity to help with your situation for now. Is there something else you'd like to talk about? If not, we can put a pin in this thread/conversation until something changes in your situation!
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