I identify as genderfluid but i barely feel masc sometimes

[imsolesboman]

Sometimes om hypermasc for a day or two and then i go back to androgynous. Im female and someone said im a demi or paragirl, but that doesnt feel right. Am i girlflux?

[Becky]

Hi imsolesboman! Welcome to the boards <3

Unfortunately this isn't an answer we can give to you. I know this is annoying but... the only person who can answer that question is you!

We can help you talk through it though!

I think you're on the right track with trusting your gut reaction when a label just doesn't feel right. If you don't identify with demi or paragirl then let's set those aside for now. How does girlflux feel when you try it on as an identity? Do you like the idea of a more specific identifier like girlflux or do you vibe better with a more open-ended identifier like genderfluid? Do either of those identities evoke some gender euphoria or a "ooo! ooo! yes! that's me!" kind of feeling?

We have a really great article about Gender Journaling here on our website. I think this could be a really great practice for you to try out. You could document the different ways you want to express gender from day to day (maybe for a month or so?) and see if you notice any patterns (or a lack of one!)

The good news is you don't have to decide right away. We humans are fluid, evolving creatures and our sense of identity can shift from day-to-day, month-to-month, and year-to-year. How you identify today might not feel like a good fit in a few years time-- and that's ok! Give yourself permission to change your mind and embrace all of the different facets of your identity.

How is everything I've said feeling for you so far?