Unprotected sex, looking for advice

[Mediapd]

Had a bad night at this bar and this girl took me home, don’t remember it honestly but we had unprotected sex for about 30 minutes. I was not able to finish (because of my state) but still like want to know odds. This was last Saturday and I believe her last period started 7 days before that. I offered to buy her plan B and she said she didn’t need it, obviously her choice but I still told her I think it would be a good idea. Asked again at like day 2 just wondering if she changed her mind and she said no. Kind of accepted my fate that there is a chance and want to know what steps I can take from here.

[char]

Hey Mediapd! Do you remember how the sex went? I suppose intercourse was involved from your description, but if you could recount what happened to the best of your abilities, that could help us let you know what you can do going forward. It would be nice if you could tell us if the girl was someone you already know in the past or a complete stranger, too.

[Mediapd]

Complete stranger, I do remember it we just had intercourse and I never even got close to finishing. To be honest it kinda felt like I was forcing myself to do it because I needed a place to stay since my phone was broken, I never got close to finishing so risk is a little lower.

[mikky]

hey mediapd,
Risk of pregnancy specifically is definitely a lot lower if you did not ejaculate. It also seems like this person has made up her mind around taking Plan B, or at least around looping you in to that choice, so I think it might be time to step away from contacting her. Let's also consider this is a risk for STIs- do you know how to access testing?

It's also concerning to hear both that you are struggling to remember and that you felt like you needed to have sex you didn't want to have a safe place to stay. Is this something that happens frequently for you? Are you often opting in to sexual activities you don't want or don't feel safe doing?

[Mediapd]

Yeah I’m definitely at risk for an STI, getting tested this week. Honestly that never happens to me I actually have a place to stay, my phone just fell and broke when I was out and my friends left me, and my phone works as a key to my building. Honestly never happens and probably wont happen again, but it's not terribly problematic I was just worried about pregnancy more.

[Heather]

Hey there, Mediapd.

There's really nothing you can do about any pregnancy risk at this point. You'll just have to see what happens, or accept, if you don't hear back from her, that whatever did or didn't happen, or whatever she did or didn't choose to do with anything that did, is out of our hands.

But I am concerned about you saying you had sex you don't remember, because that suggests to me that you drank to the point of blacking out, and that's actually a very dangerous thing to do, be it something someone does regularly or something someone does even just once. It's dangerous not just because of what can happen per choices you are making like this while you're drunk, but it's also very dangerous for your health in both the short and long term. Do you want to talk about alcohol and how to make our best choices with it or other substances?