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bricknmortar
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New dick questions!

Unread post by bricknmortar »

I have a very simple question. While penetrating someone, should you thrust from the knees or the hips? (Cut me some slack.... I've never had a dick before 😭😭😭) also if there are any other general physical tips for penetration lmk. For some context I'm afab and using a strap for the first time.
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Re: New dick questions!

Unread post by char »

Hey bricknmortar! There isn't really a "should" for how you thrust with your strap on, since what works for someone may not work for you. Depending on how you and your partner are positioned, there might be positions that require you to move your knees more and positions that require you to move your hips more. Also, sometimes what feels better for you is something you learn along the way. You might find this piece useful for more on positions: Left Foot, Red, Right Hand, Green: The Deal on Sex Positions

As for insertive sex (which is a more positive, less violent alternative to describe this kind of sex), it's a good idea to keep the dildo or penis wrapped in a condom and lubricated, regardless of the body part of the person receiving the insertion. Wrapping your dildo with a condom helps with hygiene--especially if can't be sterilized by boiling--whereas lube helps with making insertion smoother. Check out these articles:
- Lube 101: A Slick Little Primer
- Condom Basics: A User's Manual
- Is intercourse a violence or a violation?
- Let's Get Metaphysical: The Etiquette of Entry

How have you been feeling about using a strap for the first time? It's completely understandable if you're anxious about this, but we're here to support you. :)
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