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Panache
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How do I touch my boyfriend

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Hi there! Recently me and my boyfriend have been getting more intimate. It’s my first time doing anything, but not his so he’s more experienced than I am. We haven’t had sex, just touching and stuff. The problem is that I’m scared to touch him though… I don’t know how to pleasure a guy and I’m afraid I’ll do it wrong. I’m also not that confident… What should I do? Because I want him to feel good too. Any suggestions on how I can improve my confidence or technique?
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Re: How do I touch my boyfriend

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Hi there, Panache!

So, the way we learn what a partner likes is going to be the same for all of us, with every partner: we learn by talking with them to ask what they like and want to explore, and then we explore whatever those activities are (so long as we want to do them, too), and experiment, communicating all the while. Not only is there no other way for us to find out what feels good to someone (as not all guys, girls or anyone else like the same things), this is actually the fun part of sex, anyway: the exploring and finding out.

Have you two yet talked at all about what you want to explore and what you each do or might like?
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