Is this normal for virgins?

[Ontocyclic]

tried having sex with my bf 2 times now but when we try to stick it in I just can't handle the pain I get when he tries and I'm wondering if im the only one or what to do.We tried lube and tried teasing and stuff but when he tries I get the worst sharp pain that makes me want to cry. Is this normal? Has anyone else experience this?idk what to do because we try and try, we tried inserting fingers but they give me a sharp pain as well.

[KierC]

Hey there Ontocyclic, and welcome to the boards

I’m sorry to hear you’re having such pain with vaginal entry! You are definitely not the only one — we talk to folks about pain with vaginal entry quite often. I hear you, though, that it’s unresolved by using lube and incorporating foreplay. To clarify first, when you try to insert anything, would you say you’re aroused and relaxed? Too, would you be able to see a medical professional about the pain if it continues?

[KierC]

I wanted to ask for clarification as well: When you say you and your boyfriend tried “teasing and stuff,” what do you mean by that? Too, are you and your boyfriend doing anything sexual before or with vaginal entry that makes you feel really good, that you enjoy?