Buying a sex toy

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Maximil
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Buying a sex toy

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Is it okay if i want to buy a stroker as a 16 yo male? I wanted to go to spencers to buy one, i was asking one of my online friends is it bad if i am trying to buy one she said it makes me look desperate and a weirdo, plus i wouldn’t know where to hide it.
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Re: Buying a sex toy

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Hey Maximil!

It is definitely ok to want to buy a sex toy for yourself! Toys are a great way to explore self-pleasure and can help people who want to orgasm, orgasm. There's nothing shameful or "desperate" about masturbation or using sex toys. It's safe, pleasurable, and has a lot of stress relieving benefits!

I'm not sure what the current selection at Spencer's is looking like but if you do end up buying one make sure it is made from body safe materials like silicone and/or ABS plastic. Also try to pick one that looks like it won't be too hard to wash.

If you're worried about storing a sex toy, we also have a great resource about how to DIY sex toys with inconspicuous materials you probably already have around your home! Check it out here: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-sex ... ve-edition

And here's an article we have that's about masturbation in general. It might help you feel more confident about your desires: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/sex-sex ... sturbation
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Re: Buying a sex toy

Unread post by 2kEgklitter000 »

16 is a fine age to buy a sex toy and while i know the staff already replied i just wanted to say unless maturbation takes over your life and impares your ability to go about your day then there is nothing to be ashamed of, some girls especially teenage girls see alot of stigma around masturbation because they are taught it is dirty 4 them to do so whatever your friend said to you just know it is likely directed at herself in her head. Theres nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself AT ALL theres plenty of studys showing so, so dont what others say do what feels right 4 u.
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Re: Buying a sex toy

Unread post by Tara »

Maximil - is there anything else you wanted to talk about or explore with this topic?
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