Im an AFAB trans person who has never had an orgasm

[moonrisekingdom]

hello! this is my first time on here, i hope i'll be able to express my thoughts into words well enough. so i am an 18 year old AFAB trans person, im not on T, and i have never had an orgasm before but i want to.

ever since i was a pre-teen i've touched myself down there but i have only ever done rubbing and i never really put a finger inside because every time i try to, i couldn't get it in. i can get horny and wet but even if i try to rub my clit, i could never hit climax? even sometimes rubbing my clit doesn't feel pleasurable either. is there something wrong with my genitals? or maybe i need to watch porn while doing it since i've never really done that before. i even think that it would be so much simpler if i was born with a penis instead. that's all..

[Straif]

Hi Moonrisekingdom and welcome. I'll start by saying there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you or your genitals. We've got a lot of articles that can help you on the masturbation front since different things work for different people. Here are a couple of them:

Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation

Take a Self-Love Road Trip: Let Curiosity Guide Your Masturbation

Ask Not What Your Body Can Do For You, Ask What You Can Do For Your Body

How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms

Why Does Masturbation Feel Weird?

What to do When the Big O Is a No Show

I'd definitely check those out, and we're happy to talk more about it here. What are you reading that rings true for you? What doesn't quite fit? What other questions come up? In the meantime, try to be patient with yourself. Finding pleasure in our bodies while trans can feel like the difficulty mode is turned up, even if it doesn't always cause a ton of dysphoria. Fortunately, you're not alone, and you're in the right place to get support.