Wanting female friendship and connection, too scared to take the first step
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Wanting female friendship and connection, too scared to take the first step
From 7th-10th grade, I was severely bullied and verbally abused by a girl who I tried to befriend. The end result has been severe trust issues, major depression, panic attacks, and a PTSD diagnosis as well as a severe fear and extreme distrust of girls. I've been in therapy for it since roughly 2024 and I've made progress, enough progress that my therapist has told me I'm at a spot to where I can try and approach and attempt to befriend a girl. But I'm still terrified at the thought and I'm terrified of getting hurt again. My other big worry is my ADHD/ASD (Level 1, previously called Asperger's, both have been professionally diagnosed) and my perceived image. Due to my ASD I can't really determine genuine interest or someone just being polite, and I don't want to be pushy or a creep. I'm 6'3" IRL and have a naturally serious expression (which my friends have oh so affectionately described as my "unapproachable resting bitch face") and I wear primarily dark clothing, and have been told I'm very intimidating by many people. I'm not what I seem to be IRL, I'm genuinely a very friendly person but too many people overlook that because of my perceived image. I guess my question is what can I do and how can I not be seen as a creep?
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