Can I be a boy and a girl? Can someone be transmasc and a girl?

[coffeebeans]

Idk if I sound ignorant. But like what if someone wanted to transition to be a boy but also sees themselves as a girl . What if I wanted to be fluid? Idk can you be both?

[amber]

Hi coffeebeans!

You don't sound ignorant and I can assure you people have felt similarly before.

I see you've chatted with us before about the desire to find labels that fit for you, so I don't think it's a surprise that what I will say first is that labels are meant to fit us, not us into labels. Fitting yourself into a box sounds like the exact opposite of what would be helpful for you at this time.

Instead, I think it could be helpful to breakdown what you mean by 'transition' or seeing yourself as a girl. What does this look like in your expression, the way you dress? How about how people refer to you?

Does that make sense?